Most of us have faced situations where we truly wanted to end unhealthy relationships but, for some reason, were not able to do so. This is commonly found in long-term relationships. In the initial phases, it’s all pink because the world is seen through rose-tinted glasses. We look forward to likes, dislikes, and common interests, peak points where one loses temper, happy moments, hobbies, and combining activities that keep life going. But over some time, things become stagnant and boring.

The relationship that was perfect in earlier times becomes toxic, boring, and unhealthy at certain points in time. We avoid meetings; forcefully, we pretend to like things with him or her. It feels like a spark is missing, and life seems dull, uninteresting, and boring. If the same situation persists, sometimes it is expressed through physical and verbal abuse. Still, people stay in this type of relationship with all their suffering because leaving a relationship is not easy at all.

So whenever we share any type of awful situation with friends, they can easily find out the toxicity, but the person going through it ignores it and doesn’t leave that relationship. Even many times one has firmly decided to break a relationship but cannot, why? So in this blog, we will dig deeper into the reasons why people don’t get out of toxic relationships, what makes them feel, and how it seems difficult to leave them.

1. Loneliness

The feeling of living alone is sometimes so terrifying that people continue to be in toxic relationships. We, humans, are generally used to human touch. We need companions with whom we can share things that cannot be shared with family, friends, or any other person. Sometimes managing things alone, for example, raising kids, financial debts, etc., becomes difficult. Hence, one overlooks several negative qualities in a partner and becomes ready to stay in a toxic relationship.

2. Fear to restart life

Some people might think that to pursue the present relationship, we have been personally invested in terms of time, money, energy, and emotions, and now to exit it and restart all over again with another person seems impossible! People are afraid of change; they do not allow themselves to go with the flow. In any relationship, the tenure and age of the person involved matter a lot. In many countries and cultures, remarrying after a certain age is considered immoral, and the society where we all live doesn’t appreciate that thought.

3. Emotional quotient

There are many memories associated with the person, and suddenly, to move out and then give a similar position to another person becomes difficult. A different sense and feeling of familiarity persist, which stops one from going away from a toxic relationship. We become so used to that person that his or her absence makes it difficult for us to endure the moment. Sometimes we even establish a telepathic connection where we might feel that we have known this person since or before birth and cannot break that bond easily.

4. Things will get better

We reassure ourselves that, though the situation is bad, with time and fortunate events, things will get better. People usually change their nature with time. Meeting different people with different mindsets and even some incidents in life teach us to be good and nice to others. Sometimes, we hope for the best and strongly believe that things will change. The world has faced big wars, pandemics, and financial crises, and what we are going through in a relationship is nothing. Motivating self-pep talks makes it difficult to move on from toxic relationships.

5. Mood swings of partners

Sometimes partners bombard you with overwhelming love and special moments after every ill-mannered behaviour. It’s when he or she realizes that it was just a spur-of-the-moment, ego-boosting, or self-echoing congratulations that were punctured and their impulsive behaviour hurt their partner that they become warm-hearted. They might cook your favourite food, take you shopping, book holidays, and apologize by gifting your favourite things after every abusive episode. It becomes confusing and difficult to leave one.

6. Previous heartbreak

If a person has already been through a breakup and ended up being alone, and then he or she enters a toxic relationship, there is hardly any possibility that they will move on. There is a roller coaster ride of thoughts of fear, insecurity, future tension, and, most importantly, going through the same process again. As it takes a lot more strength to break one relationship, accept another person in the same place, and then redo a similar process again, we as humans are not mentally prepared for multiple heartbreaks.

7. Social Image

The thought of what people will think about me if I leave this one relationship People might think that I am not compatible enough to be in a relationship. It was my fault, or maybe my upbringing will be questioned. People will think poorly of me as if I am a failure. Society will spot a negative image of me, and the respect I have earned for so many years will be gone. Hence, the judgmental opinion of others stops us from breaking that toxic relationship.

In a nutshell, the definition of toxicity depends on tolerance levels from person to person. It’s not always appreciated to break relationships on small matters or continue living in unhealthy relationships by taking beatings. We, humans, are all different from one another. Our nature, likes, dislikes common interests, upbringing, and definition of right and wrong differs. We need to adjust to each other, forgive, and forget each other, irrespective of gender and age. That’s how the world will become a beautiful and better place to live with loved ones.